Don't tell it all.

"We find comfort amongst those who agree with us, growth amongst those who don't."


Now this is something i don't think will ever go away. Just like guys, they talk about business (dat na if the clique get head sef), football, sex with side chics and hardly on family issues unless water don pass garri. Well we girls talk about anything and everything. Even when we don't like the person we are talking to, but for the sake of being heard WE STILL TALK! This is for those who don't know how to shut their trap.

"na who stand dey watch apele(draft) de see where and where you suppose play to win your partner." All these years we've always seen our friends as our best look-out for us not to make any grave mistake in relationships. Although some of us still find it hard to listen. While some choose to talk to their mothers/sisters, others (most girls) rather talk to their friends even when they've been burned so many times by trusted friends. I rather confide in my sisters (since my mum is late) about stuffs but you and i know say the gists de filtered. There are some things you just can't say to your blood even when you want to because you know they will literally beat the shit out of you. I prefer 'beating' to my sisters' scorn. They can shout eh!! I love you  Jite, Rose, Pepe and Betty in case you see this lolz,

Now back to what we should learn NOT to say to our friends. Let's get real here. Most of us including me talk about our relationship to our friends and sometimes we do not know when to stop talking. Hold on... am not against it. Because it's just fine but as tough as it may be, there are some things one shouldn't tell her bestie.

The private detail of your partner's life. Men have a hard time opening up about their feelings, so don't breach that trust. Seriously don't! Tempting but your girlfriend ought not to know some private things about your partner- like his family issues, his weaknesses...

About the sex. Ehm! spare them this juicy part abeg. Some girls can explain sha. hahahahaha i don't blame them because am guilty. Nonetheless i think it's wrong. Maik some desperate niggress nor kolobi your boyfriend. "Yes we did it and it was ok" is good enough. I PRAY O!

Don't tell your friends about 'every' fight. This will only taint how they feel about him and yes they will try break you two up since you only get to tell them the bad things that goes on in the relationship. Things like "Richard na idiot e nor jus get sense". And that's how Richard will always be an idiot to them even when you've patched things up with him. I mean the guy might be an ass-hole (nobody's perfect) but he is your ass-hole since you're dating him. He will lose utmost respect in the eyes of your friends. Relationships last longer when nobody knows your business.

A friend of mine keeps complaining about his girlfriend and that's how i hated a girl i don't even know. And we were talking about the girl one day on phone, can't remember what the gist was about but i quickly chipped in "your girlfriend sef" sarcastically. You need to see how he quickly defended her "ah Vera! nor go there o! my girlfriend better pass you". I died with shock. Because this is the same girl he talks about her giving him altitude, picking up unnecessary fights and all. "she's not all that bad" he claimed, which i agreed hurriedly blaming myself quietly (ah! i too talk sef). If you know you guys do quarrel and make up on a regular basis nor just bother tell your friends when a fuss is on. Because your topic will be the order of the day "dem don start again".

You shouldn't gush and brag all the time to your single girlfriends about how great your boyfriend or relationship is. It is amazing when good things happen to you and you just want to share how you feel but be careful who you talk to. Not all singles are bitter, some actually feel happy for you genuinely but don't constantly remind them of their status.

If someone trusts you enough to tell you personal things about their relationship, please don't be a shitty person and brush it off by belittling it just because you've never experienced it because you probably hate (oh sorry we girls rather call it Envy to cover it's magnitude). It feels like shit to be told your feelings don't matter by the one person you actually trust enough to tell.

Don't forget "A private life is a happy life."