Marriage Palava

What is Marriage? 

Spending two year's salary on an event to entertain 500 people you don't even know...

    Will there ever be a 'lowkey' marriage in Nigeria? Are we going to keep living in sin just because we are working hard to get a 'Top-notch Wedding'. The demands are too much- Invitation cards accompanied with wine to some Honourable Guests, Beautiful white flowing gown (to make matter worse new trend don come 'reception gown'), Make-up artist for coutouring (abi na lie?),
Human hair, Shoes, Nails and them accessories, 'Plenty-steps' cake( won't dispute the fact that i love cake), Decorated reception hall/tent, Both families and friends dressed in colourful Asheobi, Souvenirs, "Enough small chops, bottled water, food and drinks to feed full community", Photographer for pre-wedding photos ( and-co outfits join if you know what i mean), Video coverage, Deejay...

   Yes let's not forget the Groom's end - the suits, shoes(their own even good they can wear it to work/ marriages). Vehicle to convey the couples to church and reception and if the guy happens not to have a car, friend of family may offer to do so. And my dear readers, this whole deal is JUST for White wedding. Long awaited list our fore- fathers give out to buy all in the name of bride price. Traditional attires, canopies, chairs, musicians, photographer... Don't even want to start breaking it down all over again.

   All these activities na for marriage. And i don't get why one should solicit for funds for marriage. Do wetin your power reach. Simple! Yes it is nice having people come celebrate with you. Na this kain tin de maik man de get long throat for wedding gifts way e no get for e marriage. People fail to think about the aftermath of marriage. What will the couples live on?

  Call me old fashion because i don't see any reason for all this. I want to be like my parents. My dad (whom am very proud of) was living  with my late mum in a one room apartment with a minimal pay job (dem never born me then do the rest of my siblings know the gist). The old man now has 3 houses (2 in town one in the village) and still very much in love with his old 504. And even though my mum is long gone my dad still long for her. That's something people! I want to build something with the man i'll call husband. We are going to start from the scratch and when i say scratch nor be 'one room' like my P-man o hahahahahaha. Time has changed. What am trying to say is, i'd love a very simple wedding. Plan walking the aisle with my dad in a very and i mean very simple white gown (short or long bucha na gown) and few witnesses., Traditional all in one day. Everybody come-go OKPARE! Know it will be very difficult since am from a very big family and i know tons of people but they all have to honour it. And i know some of you are already saying i'm planning to marry a broke nigga or probably to marry am pregnant that's why am saying all this. Nah! The truth is i need show-case nothing because i have nothing. Let's start planning life for our un-born children and quit these fantasies. Am not looking for a bad-rich nigga, just someone that's Educated/Street -smart that will Love, Respect me, Provide Securities and Know the Value of Family.

  Nobody will remember your gown, the hall you used or all of that after the wedding. If we can invest the energy spent planning the wedding, in preparing for the marriage itself, there will be less cases of divorce, boredom and all the drama in some unions. A successful marriage is hard work. Enough with the fantasies already. While waiting for your God ordained spouse, be useful to yourself and humanity, pursue your God -given purpose. He or she will not delay but will come to pass.

  Here's a friend's view on marriage. https://www.facebook.com/vdslim1/posts/969127743136615?comment_id=969146113134778

 SHALOM!